contacts now ajax in on aspect filtering on aspect/index.  fixed missing partial error on aspect_badge.

Fix 1.9 build. Apparently mongo mapper in 1.9 does not like contacts(:pending => false) - it has to be contacts.where(:pending => false). And now you know.

fixed user#move_contact. from/to aspects were incorrectly ordered in method call in aspect_controller.

Correct some queries, look at incoming requests in search,  explicit pending false in activate_contact